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DISCERNMENT COACHING

FOR COUPLES CONSIDERING RECONCILIATION

BUT HEADING TOWARDS DIVORCE

Deciding to divorce isn't easy. Both spouses are hurt, angry, sad, confused and scared. Getting divorced isn't an easy decision. Some people struggle with it for years. They haven't been happy for a long time and they know the marriage can't stay the way it is, but they also recognize that divorce is a scary answer. Maybe they have comes to terms that divorce is the only answer.

Maybe it is, maybe it isn't.

Reconciliation Ministry - Saving Broken Marriages

Life Change & Transitions Inc. is endorsed by the Diocese of Trenton
https://dioceseoftrenton.org/help-for-troubled-marriages


The Diocese describes how my programs can help and has given me a glowing endorsement!

"Through a discernment and reconciliation process, couples on the verge of divorce are encouraged to try one more time to save their marriage. The divorce process is often messy, always painful and many times filled with the regret that something more could have been done. When the mental or physical health of spouses or their children are at risk, divorce may be inevitable, but often with prayer, trust in God, perseverance and proper assistance, couples or individuals can find the path to save their marriage. For more information on effective strategies and tools for a Catholic approach to marriage reconciliation. Visit: https://www.mylifechangecoach.com/ (Michele Coppola Wilson, Transitions Coach serving the Diocese of Trenton)."

SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO?

Discernment Coaching can help you decide whether you want:

*to repair and rebuild the marriage (fight),

*pursue a divorce (flight); or

*stay in the marriage the way it is (frozen).

You are FROZEN, but FIGHT (saving the marriage) seems impossible and FLIGHT is scary (getting a divorce). 

 

You are here because this is a turning point in your life.

 

There is no turning back and a decision needs to be made, but you need some help.

Haven't you been stuck for too long? Frozen? 

 

Don't you want to break free and figure out where your life is headed?

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"I DO", "I DID", "I DON'T ANYMORE" 

Sometimes Discernment Coaching leads to reconciliation, but if it leads to divorce, you can be sure that if you reach this decision together, even though one party may still not want to divorce, your future together going forward will be a lot easier than if you didn't do Discernment Coaching! 

Give it a try! You owe it to your marriage and your spouse to try one more time! You are going to spend a lot of time and energy getting divorced; so why not expend that energy one more time in trying! This will minimize regret, believe me I know. Countless other couples I have helped will tell you the same thing.  Your marriage and your children if you have them, will benefit from trying! 

 

What I have to offer you, I can promise you, you've never tried before. I went to marriage counseling many, many times in my first marriage. I know why it doesn't work and what does!  

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I am so thankful to Michele for her dedication in helping us save our marriage. Not only did she coach us towards reconciliation, she presented to us the opportunity to participate in a Worldwide Marriage Encounter weekend. We went this past weekend and it was a mix of a spiritual awakening, as well as a psychological approach. We found a way to communicate like never before. I feel like this is what we both were looking for to save our marriage.  We became vulnerable. The fear, anger and jealousy went out the window and we connected on a different level.  Michele was instrumental in her coaching sessions with us and I am grateful she told us about the Worldwide Marriage Encounter weekend. It was heaven sent.  --Paulina V., Freehold, NJ -05/07/18

WHAT IS DISCERNMENT COACHING?

As your Discernment Coach, we will explore the Discernment Process which allows you, as a couple, to really work on Reconciliation as a final attempt to repair, rebuild, restore, renew and/or recreate your marriage. 

A couple can work with me to discern whether reconciliation is something they would like to try one more time, or maybe for the first time.  

Sometimes Discernment Coaching leads a couple to separation/divorce even after they try to reconcile.  If that happens, we can discuss your options such as Mediation or Collaborative Divorce. 

Divorcing in this way is amicable.  

It teaches you, as a couple, how to negotiate so that both parties feel they have been heard and their needs are being met.  I can show you how to divorce in a way that saves your sanity, time, money and.....

......most importantly keeps your relationship with your spouse intact for the sake of yourselves and your children.  

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YOU ARE NOT ALONE! and YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO THIS ALONE!

Please know that help is still available, even if your spouse isn't ready to do the program. Sometimes all it takes is for your spouse to see a change in YOU, and it changes THEM. Together we can explore options for you to possibly save your marriage.  I have done a ton of research on this subject and have found that there are options where one spouse can bring about a change in themselves that in turn, changes their marriage.

 

Please call me to discuss this and we can come up with a solution that works for you. I offer a free, 30 minute consultation.  The fee for a Couples Session is $225 per hour and the fee for an Individual Session is $150 per hour.   

 

Please know that you can change your emotions and reactions to the stresses in your marriage, and if you can do this FIRST, there is hope that your spouse may follow. There are several paths we can take and explore together.   

For reflection, please take some time to really listen to this song. It may provide some insight! 

Broken Together by Casting Crowns on YouTube 

Sometimes no matter how hard a couple tries to “repair and rebuild” the relationship, divorce is the only answer.  As long as BOTH couples can walk away knowing that they tried and honestly feel that they “gave it their all”, they walk away without regret, with minimal anger, and with an understanding that despite their differences, they have discovered ways to negotiate with their spouse that maybe they never understood before.