DISCERNMENT COACHING

FOR COUPLES CONSIDERING RECONCILIATION

BUT HEADING TOWARDS DIVORCE

Deciding to divorce isn't easy. Both spouses are hurt, angry, sad, confused and scared. Getting divorced isn't an easy decision. Some people struggle with it for years. They haven't been happy for a long time and they know the marriage can't stay the way it is, but they also recognize that divorce is a scary answer. Maybe they have comes to terms that divorce is the only answer.

Maybe it is, maybe it isn't.

SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO?

Discernment Coaching can help you decide whether

you want to repair and rebuild the marriage (fight),

pursue a divorce (flight); 

or stay in the marriage the way it is (frozen).

You are FROZEN, but FLIGHT seems impossible and FIGHT is scary.

You are here because this is a turning point in your life.

There is no turning back and a decision needs to be made,

but you need some help.

Haven't you been stuck for too long? Frozen? 

Don't you want to break free and figure out where you life is going?

"I DO", "I DID", "I DON'T ANYMORE" 

Sometimes Discernment Coaching leads to reconciliation, but if it leads to divorce, you can be sure that if you reach this decision together, even though one party may still not want to divorce, your future together going forward will be a lot easier than if you didn't do Discernment Coaching! 

Give it a try! You owe it to your marriage and your spouse to try one more time! You are going to spend a lot of time and energy getting divorced; so why not expand that energy one more time in trying one more time! 

I am so thankful to Michele for her dedication in helping us save our marriage. Not only did she coach us towards reconciliation, she presented to us the opportunity to participate in a Worldwide Marriage Encounter weekend. We went this past weekend and it was a mix of a spiritual awakening, as well as a psychological approach. We found a way to communicate like never before. I feel like this is what we both were looking for to save our marriage.  We became vulnerable. The fear, anger and jealousy went out the window and we connected on a different level.  Michele was instrumental in her coaching sessions with us and I am grateful she told us about the Worldwide Marriage Encounter weekend. It was heaven sent.  --Paulina V., Freehold, NJ -05/07/18

WHAT IS DISCERNMENT COACHING?

As your Discernment Coach, we will explore the Discernment Process which allows you, as a couple, to really work on Reconciliation as a final attempt to repair, rebuild, restore, renew and/or recreate your marriage. 

A couple can work with me to discern whether reconciliation is something they would like to try one more time, or maybe for the first time.  

Sometimes Discernment Coaching leads a couple to separation/divorce even after they try to reconcile.  If that happens, we can discuss your options such as Mediation or Collaborative Divorce. 

Divorcing in this way is amicable.  

It teaches you, as a couple, how to negotiate so that both parties feel they have been heard and their needs are being met.  I can show you how to divorce in a way that saves your sanity, time, money and.....

......most importantly keeps your relationship with your spouse intact for the sake of yourselves and your children.  

YOU ARE NOT ALONE! 

Please know that help is still available, even if your spouse isn't ready to do the program. Sometimes all it takes is for your spouse to see a change in YOU, and it changes THEM. Together we can explore options for you to possibly save your marriage.  I have done a ton of research on this subject and have found that there are options where one spouse can bring about a change in themselves that in turn, changes their marriage.

 

Please call me to discuss this and we can come up with a solution that works for you. Please know that you can change your emotions and reactions to the stresses in your marriage, and if you can do this FIRST, there is hope that your spouse may follow. There are several paths we can take and explore together.  Cost is determined depending on the program that is mutually selected.  

For reflection, please take some time to really listen to this song. It may provide some insight! 

Broken Together by Casting Crowns on YouTube