THE SILENT EPIDEMIC: SUFFERING SILENTLY
CHILDREN CUTTING TIES WITH THEIR PARENTS
ON TOP OF EVERYTHING ELSE YOU LOST IN THE DIVORCE, DID YOU LOSE A CHILD TOO?
ARE YOU EXPERIENCING DIFFICULTIES IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR CHILD(REN)?
IS ONE OR MORE OF YOUR CHILDREN NOT SPEAKING TO YOU?
IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR CHILD(REN) STRAINED AFTER YOUR DIVORCE?
YOU WERE ONCE A COMPLETE FAMILY
AND YOU NEVER THOUGHT THIS COULD HAPPEN TO YOU!
I never thought it could happen to me either, but it did. I thought I was a good parent.
I was my children's Class Mom, CCD Teacher, Girl Scout Leader and my house was always where all their friends wanted to be. I baked and cooked and organized playdates and fun activities. I was an involved parent and of course, I loved my children. They were my world and my life centered around them. I defined myself as being their mom, a good mom. So when 6 years after my divorce, my youngest daughter began distancing herself from me, I had no idea it would lead to a 27-month complete estrangement from her, where she blocked all contact and refused to communicate with me in any way. I began my experience of this firsthand and it wasn't easy. I questioned everything about my relationship with her, myself, my relationships with other people, my value and my self-worth. Everything I did and didn't do became moments of intense scrutiny where if it wasn't other people judging me for not having a relationship with my child, it was myself judging me! It took me a year and a lot of self-pity, anger, shame, guilt, blame and regret before I could start doing the really hard work of figuring out what happened and how I could right what went so wrong. I read every book I could find on the subject. I attended online seminars and webinars. I went to three different therapists. I listened to YouTube videos and podcasts. Then, I hired a Reunification Specialist and I learned more than I knew there was to know about this subject. I became certified as a Reunification Coach. It was then that I began the process of reconciling with my daughter. Once I was healed and ready to reconcile, I reached out to her in new ways, healthier ways and she told me later when we reconciled, that she could tell I was different. She felt safe; however it took months before she finally reached out. She had to do so when she was ready. And when she did and we began the healing process, I knew I had to share with other people what I learned. This should not be something we do alone, it is too hard to be alone in this place.
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